David And Goliath – Thai Style
0“Forgive Us Our Poor Choices”
0Chan Rak Muang Thai
1Its strange seeing ourselves, a bit of our life and even our home on TV. Stranger still when walking down the street in a far corner of the city the next day some motorcycle taxi drivers call out, “Khun Mali, rue plao?” (Kashmira’s Thai name: “Mali, is that you?”)
Later that day, while visiting the hospital for Elian’s one year check-up a nurse approached Kashmira and said with a smirk, “I saw you on T.V. yesterday, didn’t I?” This recognition resulted in even more than the usual amount of attention and interest in our two kids. By the time we went in to the doctor’s room the nurses had the show pulled up on their computer console and were watching it at the nurse’s station. When Iven was paying the doctor bill the pharmacist came out from the back and exclaimed, “I recognize your voice – I saw you on T.V. Yesterday.”
The old woman that sells fruit in our alley approached Iven later that week and said, “I never knew you loved Thailand so much…thank you for loving my country.” A week or so later Iven was taking a neighbor to (a different) hospital and without any prompting they helped jump this neighbor to the front of the line, saving them close to three-hours in the waiting room!
Really it is quite an honor to be chosen to be filmed. The show about our family aired on TV on August 26, and since then we’ve received immensely positive feedback from both neighbors and random strangers alike! Needless to say, it has been very surprising how many people from different walks of life have watched the show. Our prayer is that in some small way Jesus might show through our lives (even through the producers edited out all mention of our faith) and also that some of what we suggested about how to relate to people on the streets might sink in and draw more and more “normal” Thais into appropriate, helping relationships with those in real need.
If you’d like to watch the show, it has been posted on youtube in four different segments. Please follow the youtube links below, complete with a brief summary of each section to help those of you who don’t yet speak Thai follow along.
Meet the Hauptmans – Part 1
We introduce ourselves and our Thai names, sharing about how we live in a wonderful and interesting part of the city. We then take a tour of our local market that Kashmira visits weekly and whose vendors all know our kids. We discuss how wonderful Thai fruit is, especially mangoes – which our family eats daily.
We invite the host into our home and explain how Kashmira had a love (and call) to Thailand first – then Iven fell in love with Kashmira, who told him that if he wanted to marry her he would need to move to Thailand too! So we came here together. When we first came it was hard because we spoke no Thai and could read Thai – felt like a child. We discuss learning Thai vs English.
Introducing some of our neighbors – Part 2
Iven talks with the host about our work with the homeless in our neighborhood while Kashmira and the kids “rest” in the heat of the day. Explains how usually the kids are involved in most work and relationships. Helping people to have better lives – people on the streets who have run grom hard situations or met with hard circumstances and broken relationships, recognizing that no one ever had the dream of being homeless when they are kids. Iven explains that we began this sort of work while still living in America. Everone loves our kids and they make it easy to get to know people, and we have never felt unsafe on our streeets. The most important thing for people is hope, without hope there is no reason to live, no matter if someone is rich or poor.
Introducing the host to some of our neighbors, including one man (of many) who collects used plastic bottles to resell for a small story. P’ Noey tells the story of Awt, a neighbor who was very ill and who we helped to reveive needed medical care and journeyed with until his passing several months ago.
Iven introduces P’ Wa (who many of you know and have prayed for, who we’ve known for 3 years and have walked with through much). Wa lost his family and former life the 2004 tsunami. Wa thanks Iven and family for helping him to have more hope and life.
Feeding the Homeless with Issarachon & Queen Mother Museum – Part 3
We our friends at Issarachon, a Thai foundation that has been serving our homeless neighbors for many years now. They are having a special feeding time to celebrate the first birthday of a relative of their board member. Along with Ajarn Natii from Issarachon we agree together that taking time to form real relationships, which communicates value, is the most important way to help and serve people in hard places, like the homeless. We discuss how difficult it is for people who don’t have government ID cards. We meet Nuat, a neighbor we have known for about two years. The food is all gone now – host says it is good for him to see how people serve like this. Iven explains how important it is to see the value inside of people, no matter how dirty they might be on the outside, or what they look like.
Queen Mother’s Museum
We bring host to the museum park commemorating the original house of the queen mother and her life of service and sacrifice. Izayla meanwhile loves her sticky rice (khao nieow). We look at memorials and discuss what a wonderful example the queen mother (the mother of the King) was as a mother and leader.
Feeding Fish, Boat Ride, and Mother’s Day Activities – Part 4
We go to feed the fish at the river and explain how Kashmira spent much of her childhood in the ocean on a fishing boat her parents built in the driveway. This is one of the reasons we gave Izayla the middle name “Talae”, which is Thai for sea. We discuss how important the rivers and waterways are for Thai life. Then we take a boat together through a big rain storn and talk about the different festivals in Thailand that involve water, including the most well known such as Songran – national 3 day water fight that takes place in the heart of the hot season.
On the way to the mother’s day festivities at Sanam Luang we meet a group of homeless people and after talking with them a while go and get them some food, but explain to the host that we almost never give people on the streets money since so many struggle with addictions and giving money will almost always go to the addiction of choice before necessary food or water.
At Sanam Luang’s Mother’s day activities we express our gratitude at living in Thailand and sharing our lives with Thai people, to see even poor people caring for one another. The host asks how long we’re planning to stay here and we finish by telling the host that right now we have no plans to leave Thailand and Izayla and Iven give Kashmira a mother’s day card and Izayla says, “Suk san Wan Mae” or “Happy Mother’s Day” in Thai.
“What are you writing?”
0We approached a woman sitting on the sidewalk who seemed to be trying to hide herself under her umbrella. She hesitated a little and then responded, “I am writing about my life. I have sold my body for many years now and in the beginning I made good money – now I have almost no customers and sometimes get offered as little as 100 baht ($3). Everyone in my family is gone and I live alone. I am so sad, I cry all the time and sometimes just want to die. I have nothing left to do but write.” This is just one woman’s story, from one conversation we had this week. We had never met her before and though we are working to set her up with another organization that can help provide some job training and get her another form of income, there is no guarantee we will ever actually see her again. This is the reality of our neighborhood. We spent time listening to her story, asking questions, bought her some food since she said she had not eaten that day and had only 5 baht (about 20 cents), shared with her about how there is a God who knows all of her story and sadness and cries with her, and prayed for her. We gave her our numbers and talked about how we could find her again – her response was, “I think maybe that if you are able to help, God will bring you back across my path.”
A week later we bumped into her again – this time while trying to do “church” with a few of our neighbors who “used to be” Christian. She readily joined in praying out loud to Jesus – and revealed to us that she had grown up in a Catholic School. A few days after that we got to spend the morning with her visiting some different social service and job retraining options. She wasn’t very excited about any of the places that we visited together – but we will continue praying that God opens up a new door for this new friend.
Toddler Meets Strip Club
0June 15, 2012 (??)
This is the third year in a row that we have helped facilitate Inter Varsity’s Global Urban Trek Asia summer teams Bangkok red-light district prayer walk. It is just one night during a long week of preparation and team building activities for the 80-or-so college students that will spend their summer living with national families in an Asian slum, discerning whether God may have a long-term call on their lives to work with people in poverty. Our part is to give some teaching, break some stereotypes, and help students to spiritually prepare for on-site prayer in one of the several red-light districts of Bangkok. Our heart and hope is that these students are able to catch a bit of God’s heart of love and embrace for the women and men who work in those areas, whether they be selling services themselves, managing establishments where sex is sold, or coming as customers.
This year, we felt led to take one of the teams to an area in the northern part of Bangkok that has a collection of karaoke and strip clubs, but caters only to Thai clients. As far as we know, there is no current Christian response in that neighborhood, and though it is less obviously flashy and loud than the neighborhood catering to foreigners, there is no shortage of heartache and darkness.
We ourselves have only been to that neighborhood a handful of times, and then only years ago while we were first getting our bearings and surveying areas where men worked, so we knew we needed to visit and get a sense of the scene before taking a group of a dozen or more students with us. We had childcare arranged for the time we would be with the students, but we decided it was simplest to go ahead and bring our tired kids with us for our initial exploring. It wasn’t very late – maybe 8 pm or so – and the bars and clubs were just beginning to think about opening. We slowly walked the street with our stroller, asking God to open our eyes and hearts, and help us to ask the right questions of the doormen and women who were trickling in for their shifts. A couple of especially friendly doormen were delighted with our kids and unhelpfully held the front door open as Izayla ran towards it. She quickly slipped into the darkness of loud club music. Iven and I looked at each other, unsure of what to do next – “You need to follow her,” he said to me. We are both committed to protecting his eyes from any unnecessary female nudity. So, I trudged after my toddler and was quickly also swallowed up by darkness and dance music. My eyes adjusted and I looked around to find less than a half dozen people inside, all workers, and my little lady just a bit in front of me jumping up and down and laughing to the music. I looked past her and saw one women on stage practicing a pole dance, in something like a bikini. Izayla suddenly saw her and stopped dancing, watching her closely she turned to me and declared in a way only a two-year-old could, “No clothes on…dancing…that’s fun!”
And it hit me. Here I am, in a strip club, with my two-year-old, and she has just observed what is happening and categorized it as “fun”. Hmmm. What to do now. This is one of those moments, as a missionary mom, when I wonder if we are foolish and wrong to let our kids slip in to scenes like this, or if it is indeed good to let them have little doses of reality and be able to have the conversations about what is actually fun, and what just seems like fun, and more importantly what is good and not good, healthy and honoring, and not. She is just barely two. We can’t really have those conversations with her yet. And though we are not eager to bring her into strip clubs and brothels, it is a reality of our life and of the world, and our kids are just simply going to have to deal with those realities at an earlier age than most kids (coming from America, at least). My hope and prayer is that as they are exposed, they will also see the very real consequences of sin and broken relationships in the lives of our neighbors. They won’t just taste alcohol as teenagers, they will see countless neighbors passed out drunk all throughout their childhood, and see friends and “uncles” wasting away, literally, from the poison of whiskey as their primary food. They won’t just hear about people having “unwanted pregnancies”, they will see the many swollen bellies of women who are working our streets, and see the hardships of those children as they are raised in contexts that simply don’t have the emotional and physical resources to provide for secure childhoods.
I don’t think God sees the woman dancing on the stage and calls it “fun”, as our little daughter does, but I do know that He sees that woman and calls HER “precious!” without any of the baggage and judgments that we grown-ups have a hard time letting go of. That is one thing our little ones are great at. In that sense, they do see like God does, and at least that can be called “very good”.
New Teammates
0“Did you Know Jesus forgives our sins?”
0Iven and our new teammate Matthijs were talking with a Burmese man sitting on the sidewalk, whiskey bottle in hand. He told them he was Muslim and Iven responded with a bit more provocativeness than we often exhibit, “Drinking is a sin in Islamic law – what do you think about that?” The man took a long, sad look at his bottle and then at Iven and answered, “Yeah, I know. I don’t know what to do about my sins.” The pair shared with him about how Jesus offers freedom from sin, and a pathway for a new life. Soon the man put down his bottle and asked if he could join them as they passed out food boxes to more hungry neighbors. The Burmese man led them along and was the first to proclaim “Did you know Jesus can forgive our sins? We don’t need to be stuck!” to each group they met. Now to be honest- this man didn’t actually seem all that interested in receiving forgiveness into his own life just quite yet, but we do love how people can join in the work of the kingdom – in this case sharing food and proclamation – even if they are only at the beginning of their own journey.
“Service Sunday” Serves our Neighbors
0Picture this:
Iven – White, early-30s, from the American west coast, child of liberal upper-middle class parents…
Khan – Cambodian-American, mid-20s, rough background with the tattoos to fit the part…
Steven – Middle-aged, successful Hong Kong-Australian business-man…
This unlikely trio was one of about 20 groups that hit our streets on Sunday morning, giving out food, praying for people and extending care and a listening ear to our neighbors.
“Service Sunday” is an annual event in the life of ECB (Evangelical Church of Bangkok), where normal Sunday morning worship services are replaced with acts of intentional service-as-worship of all kinds spanning across the city. Rak Teh and our neighborhood have been part of this project since it began three years ago.
The 80 people that joined us on Sunday make up 10% – essentially a tithe – of the fairly large, international congregation. It was such a joy for us to participate in and help facilitate the morning, welcoming people from many nations and backgrounds to join together in serving our neighbors!
The most poignant moment of the morning was hearing back from one team made up of 6 friends from 5 nations (several of whom are a part of our local Life Group) who after sharing food with a group of homeless neighbors and listening to one woman’s hard story, initiated washing her feet right there on the side of the road with a washcloth and water bottle. Their kindness brought tears to her eyes.
Another group talked and eventually prayed with a transgendered person involved in prostitution. It was clearly meaningful for this neighbor to receive prayer, and especially to have one of the ECB volunteers so readily hold their hands.
It is always such a gift when others come alongside and get to experience with us what a privilege we have to be involved in the lives of our neighbors and to see little glimpses of what God is doing in their lives.
Thank you ECB!!
Women’s Health Outreach
0In May we partnered with Issarachon and the Queen Sirikit Center for Breast Cancer based out of the Chulalongkorn Hospital to help open the door for women from the neighborhood connect with a health project targeting disadvantaged women providing free cancer screening and follow-up medical care. It was a two-part process where the first day women from the neighborhood came together for some fun and informative teaching about cancer and health. Then, two-weeks later 35 of our neighbors boarded a bus to “Bpy Thiaw” or go on a trip to a world-class breast and cervical cancer screening facility in down-town Bangkok.
Neighbor Kids Pushing Pills
0Anyone with half a brain living in an inner-city neighborhood (or any neighborhood, for that matter) knows that at some point their kids will be faced with peer pressure to use drugs. We just didn’t think it would start so early.
OK, so I am being a bit dramatic here, but speaking entirely tongue-in-cheek, try to appreciate this scene with me:
Iven and I are in front of the largest hourly motel in our neighborhood, talking with some women. Our 9-month old son is being passed around and played with and our 2-year old Izayla is running around the sidewalk with a group of children (all a bit older than her), several of whom lived in our building until recently. The group of kids, including our own, gets to the end of the block and huddles just out of sight around a corner.
My mom radar switches to higher alert and my social-worker-missionary hat takes a backseat as I excuse myself from the conversation and follow after the kids. Thai culture would not require me to do so – the community is to keep an eye on the kids together. I love this in theory but I also know how incredibly rampant pedophilia is in this culture, how many drunk people wander our streets, and how many people tell me over and over that kids are regularly “stolen” (especially from our part of the city, supposedly). Anyhow, expecting all to be well but wanting to keep an eye on my toddler I come around the corner just in time to see Izayla popping something tiny into her mouth.
“What do you have? What are you doing?” I ask her, and then turn to one of the older kids who I know well with the same questions. He holds up a pill box with dozens of little pills of several different shades all separated out, as if this should calm my nerves. “Can she have some?” He asks me. “Did she already have some?” I counter, and he nods. “Vitamin C,” is his response to my look of concern and raised eyebrows.
Maybe. Probably. Who knows… Regardless, I asked him to not let her have anymore.
Out of my sight for 10 seconds and my toddler is getting pills slipped to her. Oie.



